Thoughts? Advice? email it to jackie@1003thepeak.com

Dear Donnie,

HELP!…I recently discovered that my ex-husband of many years allowed our 15-year-old freshman’s boyfriend to sleep over several times over the Winter Break. Not only did he allow them to have this sleepover, he allowed the boy to sleep in my daughter’s bed!

Call me old-fashioned, but I was nearly physically ill when I found this out…and so angry! After talking to the boy’s mom (he is also 15), she had no idea this was going on either and was very upset, as well.

While “nothing happened,” I also am not naïve enough to know that, eventually something will happen. I have talked to my daughter and discussed why this is wrong and also discussed how, going forward, she can prevent this from happening again. But how is she to choose different, if a parent gives their permission? How can a parent put a child in this position?

Of course, my ex tells me that I am crazy, an idiot, that I smother our kids, that I don’t trust them, that I need to give them their freedom…however, our other kids are not without problems either. The common denominator is me…but isn’t it also him? Am I crazy? Do other parents think this acceptable and “normal”? (not that that will change my mind on this)

Thanks!