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Dear Donnie,

  I have messed up in a huge way. I dated a guy for 2 months who turned out to be married. I had NO IDEA. He lives in Las Cruces and would come down here at least once a week. He has 2 kids and they are just babies. One is 3 and the other is only 1. I dumped him the second I found out but I feel so guilty. He wasn't just having fun. We were very, very close. Obviusly we were intimate but he also talked about relocating here to live with me. He wouldn't stop calling and texting me until I told him I was going to tell his wife. He finally stopped, but I keep thinking I need to tell her anyway. I think she should know who he really is. I can't sleep because I feel so strongly about telling her, I almost called her on Monday when I knew he was here, but I didn't. Please tell me what I should do.